Episode 2: Judgment and Shame around Money

Dec 8

“You want to get 1% better every single day and the only way you get to do that is if you drop the judgment and you allow [Money] to be not only a financial growth exercise, but also a personal growth exercise.”

“I should be further along”

“My finances are a mess”

“I don’t have enough money”

Sound familiar?

If so, you aren’t alone. You are one of the many people that experience judgment and shame around money. Judgment and shame thoughts with money are tricky because we believe we need to shame and judge ourselves in order to do it differently next time. But these thoughts elicit quite the contrary and are actually one of the main blockers in your financial journey.

In this episode, you will learn how to move the shame and judgment you have around your finances. You’ll learn why you are at the perfect point in your financial journey and learn how to redirect the time you spent judging yourself into something more nourishing and beneficial for your growth and financial future.

Key highlights

[00:00:03] Introduction to today’s topic: Money and judgment

[00:04:24] How to process shame and judgment with money

[00:07:48] A new way to think about your money

Notable Quotes

The reason why I love going to these Enneagram knights is just because I really get to learn so much about other people without the judgment of needing to be like them or be different from them, that I traditionally will experience
When we have a lot of judgment around ourselves with money, it really blocks us from getting to know our money better, it blocks us from getting to know ourselves better.
Your judgmental voice around your current financial situation or your past financial decisions is what prevents you from actually really getting to know them, understanding them at a deeper level, having compassion and respect for them and then learning and growing from them and making new decisions moving forward. All it does is it makes you not want to be in a relationship with your money, it just makes you want to avoid your money and put it on the backburner.
What shame and judgment does is it locks you from really seeing where you are.
Another thing that really happens with judgment is it really prevents it prevents you from getting to know yourself better,
I really believe that removing judgment and shame around your finances is really just an exercise in loving yourself more deeply. And I also believe that when you love yourself more deeply, your net worth goes up.
That's what I really try to help my clients do as it relates to their money, is to break through those judgment and shame narratives, so that they can see what's actually behind that.
Every financial decision that you made in the past is perfect. Your starting point today is the perfect place to be because it's where you are, and anytime you spend arguing with that you are wasting time.
The mindset you want to build your financial future on is unconditional love, your commitment to personal growth, your commitment to financial growth, and getting better as a person and really starting to understand what you actually need, and how can you take care of yourself and start to heal some of those root emotional issues that have driven your financial decisions in the past, without getting yourself in a sticky, uncomfortable financial situation for your future.
You want to get 1% better every single day and the only way you get to do that is if you drop the judgment and you allow this to be not only a financial growth exercise, but also a personal growth exercise.